Image: front cover  Pre-Order
        for 20% discount
  •  CDN $24.99 
  •  USD $24.99 

Paperback – 400 pages
6 Inches × 9 Inches (w × h)

Weight: 616 Grams
BISAC: POLITICAL SCIENCE / Peace
Publisher: New Society Publishers
ISBN: 9780865719088
Pub. Date: 2019-05-28

About the Author

Matthew Legge

Matthew Legge has worked in the nonprofit sector for the last 13 years, with a focus on helping people thrive through the full enjoyment of health, dignity, and rights. Since 2012, he has worked with Canadian Friends Service Committee (CFSC), the peace and social justice agency of the Religious Society of Friends in Canada (Quakers). Quakers are widely respected for their efforts to prevent war and transform conflicts, as well as their impartial support for war victims. As CFSC's Peace Program Coordinator, Matthew has had the opportunity to learn from Quakers across Canada and in the US, Europe, and Africa. He holds a degree in Anthropology from the University of Toronto and served for six years on the board of directors of the Ontario Council for International Cooperation, where he helped develop anti-oppression strategies. Matthew lives in Toronto, Canada.

view author profile

Are We Done Fighting?

Building Understanding in a World of Hate and Division

by Matthew Legge



Unfounded beliefs and hateful political and social divisions that can cascade into violence are threatening to pull the world apart. Responding to fear and aggression strategically and with compassion is vital if we are to push back against the politics of hate and live in greater safety and harmony.

But how to do it?

Are We Done Fighting? is brimming with the latest research, practical activities, and inspirational stories of success for cultivating inner change and spreading peace at the community level and beyond. Coverage includes:

  • An explanation of the different styles of conflict
  • Cognitive biases that help explain polarized and lose-lose positions
  • Practical methods and activities for changing our own and others' minds
  • When punishment works and doesn't, and how to encourage discipline in children without using violence
  •  The skill of self-compassion and ways to reduce prejudice in ourselves and others
  • Incredible programs that are rebuilding trust between people after genocide.

 Packed with inspiration and cutting-edge findings from fields including neuroscience, social psychology, and behavioural economics, Are We Done Fighting? is an essential toolkit for activists, community and peace groups, and students and instructors working to build dialogue, understanding, and peace as the antidote to the politics of hate and division.

You might also enjoy

The Joy of Conflict Resolution

The Joy of Conflict Resolution

Transforming Victims, Villains and Heroes in the Workplace and at Home

The rapid rate of change in the workplace and among families often leads to conflict and confrontation which can undermine productivity and poison …

view title info
The Mediator's Handbook

The Mediator's Handbook

Revised & Expanded fourth edition

The popular Mediator's Handbook presents a time-tested, adaptable model for helping people work through conflict. Extensively revised to incorporate …

view title info
The Art of Focused Conversation

The Art of Focused Conversation

100 Ways to Access Group Wisdom in the Workplace

Communication within many organizations has been reduced to email, electronic file transfer, and hasty sound bytes at hurried meetings. More and …

view title info
Consensus-Oriented Decision-Making

Consensus-Oriented Decision-Making

The CODM Model for Facilitating Groups to Widespread Agreement

For any group or organization to function effectively, it must be able to make decisions well. Consensus-Oriented Decision-Making is the first book …

view title info